After marriage daughters are expected to do the things that sons aren’t.

Time has changed but not for women’s. Challenges are still the same for them. At almost every stage of life women face restrictions, allegations and a sense of inferiority. They were never given the rights to make decisions even for their own lives. It becomes even worse when the decision is about their marital life.  It’s a saying that -“pairs are made in heaven”,but very few women feel the same. When it comes to life after marriage, there is no change in a man’s life. But for the woman ,her entire life gets changed. She leaves her identity , her parent’s home, her dreams ,her goals and even her surname is no longer her’s. Doing any job or not is now the decision of her in-laws. She has to comply with the  traditional societal roles. She is never asked but always constrained to do so.

Many people say  that this suffering is due to the deep rooted cultural patriarchy and the orthodox beliefs of the society. There are several traditions and customs that are followed on which we should rethink about.

Daughters being called as paraya dhan-

Daughters are always considered as -‘Paraya Dhan’. Paraya Dhan, the term refers to the wealth of someone else. Daughters are born and raised just to handover them to their future in-laws after the marriage. There’s nothing wrong in leaving the parent’s house for staying with husband and in-laws but she is never asked for her choice. She’s bound to do so.

This tradition has been followed for thousands of decades. We have become so habitual of it that we don’t even notice that we are actually violating women’s rights. Also the women are grown up in such an atmosphere where they become habitual of seeing the other women leaving their house after marriage, they never raise their voice for themselves.These customs and traditions are successively  reigning our societies.

Sarvagun Sampann – ideal daughter.

In Indian context a woman should become sarvagun sampann until her marriage time. Sarvagun Sampann means to be perfect in all the household chores. A woman is always taught how to be an ideal daughter in law in her future. Her upbringing involves getting perfect in all the household chores including cooking, house cleaning and pleasing the guests. The mentality of her being a paraya dhan is so forcibly imposed in her mind that she is not even using her mind independently. Rather than gaining knowledge from her own life experiences she’s made to believe in the only fate for which she’d been trained since her birth- marriage.

Domestic life- boundation.

For decades, women have been considered to be made for doing domestic work. Though we have reached certain peaks of modernisation, the plight of many women is still the same. Women sacrifice at every stage of her life for the sake of society’s demands. A girl needs to sacrifice for her surname, a daughter needs to give up on her dreams for her dad’s decision, a mother sacrifices her career for taking care of her children and family. All these allegations and the sacrifices come in the part of women’s life,mens always remain untouched from these.

Old traditions must be upgraded.

Although customs and traditions are the pillar of society, they must be revolutionized with changing time. They are meant for the benefit of the society and must be upgraded periodically. Since decades women’s have been tortured on the name of traditions. However the positive change is noticeable. Opportunities and appreciation are given to the women’s too. But is it sufficient enough, No.

Positive encouragement instead of brainwashing.

Daughters should be educated well so that they become independent and self-reliant. The mentality of making an ideal daughter in law should be abolished. Instead of teaching them to become good wives they should be taught to prepare to chase their dreams. Daughters and sons should be equally treated.God didn’t create the difference between men and women but our mentality and thinking has drastically changed.